It's Time For The 2013 MDA Muscle Walk!

Hello! Two times a year I ask you all to help me out for a cause near to my heart - raising money to fight Muscular Dystrophy. Well, this is one of those times.

The 2013 Muscular Dystrophy Association Muscle Walk is coming up March 23rd! I've been attending since 2009 but unfortunately I won't be able to actually go to this year's walk. HOWEVER, my team "The Nerdy Birds" will still be doing our part to help everyone else beat last year's total!

How can you help?

First and foremost, a donation would be spectacular. You can do that securely online at our team page. We've set the team goal at $2,000 but I'm hoping we can bring more in! I say this every time but ANY amount is the perfect amount. If you can give $1, give $1. If every one of my Twitter followers gave $1 each I'd raise over $20,000 for MDA! It adds up quickly.

Second, if you cannot donate I ask that you spread the word. Twitter, Facebook, Google +, Myspace, message boards, billboards, anywhere! Getting the word out means possible donations and the closer The Nerdy Birds can get to their goal!

Thank you all so much for always being there for me and thank you to the newcomers for the help as well. :)

How Would You Like Game of Thrones Season 2 On Blu-Ray?

HAPPY GAME OF THRONES DAY!

Thanks to Appliances Online I have a copy of Game Of Thrones: The Complete Second Season (Blu-ray/DVD Combo + Digital Copy) to give away to one lucky fan!

I was able to get a preview copy of the set, which hits stores today, and you will not be disappointed! Here's are some of the features:

Creating the Battle of Blackwater Bay

Game of Thrones: Inner Circle

12 Audio Commentaries with Cast and Crew

The Religions of Westeros

Character Profiles

In-Episode Guide

Histories & Lore

War of the Five Kings

Hidden Dragon Eggs

The actor interviews are fantastic and I've watched the Blackwater Bay feature, which was pretty impressive. I'm always amazed at what they are able to pull off on their budget. I've yet to find those dragon eggs though...

So you want to win one for yourself? Just send an email to nerdybirdcontest [at] gmail [dot] com with the subject line: Game of Thrones S2 Contest. (Exactly that or you will be disqualified) Then tell me (briefly) about your favorite character from the show. The contest will end tomorrow, Wednesday February 20, 2013 at 12 p.m. EST. This contest is open to anyone, anywhere but you may only enter once! 

Thanks again to Appliances Online for giving me the opportunity to hold a contest for something I'm such a big fan of!

To boldly roll.

I'm embarking on a new journey today. One that will involve danger, intrigue, and a whole lot of trust.

I'm starting a new Dungeons & Dragons campaign.

That may not sound like a big deal to you but to me, it is. And here's why. 

I'd wanted to play D&D since I was little but always felt intimidated. Not only did I keep my geek flag hidden back then, I wasn't aware of anyone who played so I couldn't even get my foot in the door. It wasn't until I started dating someone in my twenties who'd played his entire life that I got my chance.

But not with him. See, his D&D group was "boys only." Lame, right? Those guys had a very tight-knit group for years though so I couldn't blame them too much. But I still wanted to play. So what was a girl to do? Create a "girls only" league with the boys' girlfriends. To be fair, we also had one guy in the group. He really wanted to play and we were "more the merrier" type of people.

But my D&D career ended before I had a chance to make a saving throw. I was dumped by my boyfriend and immediately after, my group stopped talking to me. And I'll be honest, the latter might have hurt more than the former.

I was friends with these folks for almost three years before we started our gaming group but the D&D portion of our friendship was different. We had already gotten to know each other better at regular game nights but once D&D entered the equation a new chapter was opened. I was thrilled to learn the game along with them and discover what their characters were all about. We'd only played a handful of times but they were good times, and times I expected to continue. 

When it didn't, I was hurt. I expected, perhaps foolishly, that my relationship with these people existed outside of the relationship I had with my ex. The breakup was his choice, I hadn't done anything evil to him, but they made the choice to break off contact with me anyway and with that, my short D&D career was over. 

That was six years ago.

I've had opportunities to join other D&D games over the years but never felt quite comfortable jumping back in. I had been so happy with my group, learning together, being ourselves, that I couldn't bring myself to say yes and get hurt like that again. I've certainly had the same experience with romantic relationships in my life but always told myself I'd never know unless I tried. For some reason, D&D was different.

These days I work in an office with several geeks. We commiserate over the latest geek drama and share in the joy of exciting announcements, so when the invitation arrived in my inbox to join several of them in a new campaign, my heart stopped. 

And then I said, "Fuck it. I wanna kill some goblins."

I'm just a few minutes away from meeting with my co-workers now to get ourselves situated for our new campaign. I'm gonna need a refresher course since I have a terrible memory but I couldn't be more excited to begin.

And yes, my dice do match my hair. Deal with it.

The James Gunn Controversy

[Note: I started to write this post before James Gunn issued his apology statement. Rather than rewriting the entire thing, I decided to leave it as-is with an addendum attached to the end.]

It was my day off and on my day off I try to keep internet viewing to a minimum. I’m online quite a bit already, as you may well know. But I hopped on Twitter, as I often do, to see what the day had to offer in the way of geek news. It seemed my Editor at TheMarySue.com, Susana Polo, had stumbled upon something that bothered her. Indie director/writer James Gunn, hired by Disney/Marvel to bring The Guardians of the Galaxy to the big screen, had written a post titled, “The 50 Superheroes You Most Want To Have Sex With.”

The title itself didn’t strike me as anything unusual for the comic internet (of which I wasn’t aware Gunn was an active participant in) In 2010, I myself wrote a list about wanting to have sex with Batman, but once I read the content of Gunn’s list I realized why Susana had written the piece.

Gunn posted the list on his own website on February 11, 2011 so why was this just becoming a big deal now? Two reasons: One, someone on Tumblr came across the post, didn’t appreciate it, and wrote about it. It spread. Two: Because Gunn is now responsible for a big-budget film from Disney/Marvel, which means there are more people invested in his career.

After both Gunn and actor Rainn Wilson asked their followings online to vote in Gunn’s second annual poll of this kind, he whittled down the list of his 300 nominees to 50, and wrote about them. What followed was at best, the kind of immature sexual talk you’d hear in an 8^th grade locker room, at worst, some seriously homophobic and misogynistic remarks. I won’t bother copy/pasting them here as some people who’ve done that have been accused of taking his words out of context. You could read the list on his website. But it was removed sometime between the night of Tuesday November 27, 2012 and when Susana started writing her post the following morning.

But if you do want to read it, and I warn you, there’s some extreme, trigger-y language, the page iscached on Google. There was also a follow-up list where Gunn gave just his own top superheroes he’d like to have sex with. Also deleted. Also cached.

To me, that’s telling. It would be one thing if, when he realized how many people were offended by the list, removed them from his website and replaced them with an apology. Something like…

I removed the posts in question from my website because, while coming from a place of humor, I realize I am now in a position of power and people in power have a responsibility. People in power have influence and what they say matters.

But that didn’t happen. In fact, since the list was brought into brighter light, he hasn’t addressed it at all. Even after The Hollywood Reporter picked up the story and asked both Gunn and Marvel for comments. Neither Marvel, nor their parent company Disney, has issued a statement.

At face value, having not been familiar with Gunn’s work or personality, the list comes off as a disgusting man making misogynistic remarks about fictional women and homophobic remarks about their male counterparts.

Many have defended Gunn’s words claiming if you look at his past work and behavior, this is his brand of humor and he does not truly feel this way about women or homosexuals. They claim it’s purely satire.

But it’s not.

I’m not saying the list wasn’t made entirely in jest (a type of jest that offends me personally), I’m just saying this is absolutely not satire. And don’t forget, satire does not equal comedy. It can be written as humorous, but satire does not equal comedy.

Merriam-Webster has two definitions of the word:

1. a literary work holding up human vices and follies to ridicule or scorn 

2. wit, irony, or sarcasm used to expose and discredit vice or folly

What human vice is Gunn holding up to ridicule or criticism here? What vice or folly is he using sarcasm or irony to deflect? The one answer I’ve heard to those questions is Gunn was attempting to ridicule the many comic fans online who write this type of gross list regularly but if that was his intent, he failed. The list is not satire, at best, it’s base humor.

But that’s neither here nor there. Why? Because Gunn hasn’t spoken out on the subject closing in on 48 hours after it started making waves. Someone started apetition to get him removed from The Guardians of the Galaxy film. I don’t agree with that sentiment, especially not before hearing the man out. People who have met him or know him personally have defended him, saying he was just “being stupid,” and I can believe that but I’d like to hear Gunn say it himself.

I also find it odd to call into question Gunn’s friendship with Joss Whedon. I have plenty of friends who make jokes I find offensive or who have opinions squarely opposed to my own, that doesn’t mean they aren’t my friends. So no, I don’t feel Whedon should get involved, least of all before Gunn says anything.

Different people see different things when looking at his post. I get that. But in an industry already hostile to women, something like this from a prominent member sets a bad example. Jokes like the ones Gunn wrote become indoctrinated into our culture in such a way that they become acceptable to some people and bad behavior continues to perpetuate. Women being raped because men think they can “turn” them is something that happens too often in our society and by continuing to treat it lightly, we reinforce that way of thinking.

Do I think calling for his job and/or head is the correct response? No. When controversial things like this pop up online, some people discuss civilly why it bothers them, but others take it and run to a very dark place. I don’t necessarily blame them, the things said in Gunn’s list are extremely sensitive in nature and people themselves are sensitive to that depending on their life experience.

Then the situation escalates when people who don’t see X, Y, or Z as a problem, accuse those who do of being overly sensitive, or *gasp * having feelings about something. I’m sure you’ve seen it plenty of times on message boards and social media. Someone says they are really offended by something and another person tells them:

1. It’s not a big deal. 

2. You’re looking at this all wrong. 

3.  Aren’t there more important things to complain about in this world? 

4. That bitch just needs some dick.

Number four happens to women who speak out online more than you can possibly imagine.

But in defense of those who have serious issues with what Gunn wrote, and wrote an intelligent response, saying something is homophobic or misogynist isn't the same as saying the person themselves is homophobic or misogynist. Most people forget that. People can say things they don’t realize are inherently offensive.

I agreed with Susana’s assessment and am glad she raised the profile of this post from long ago. What Gunn wrote was extremely problematic and needed to be discussed. I, for one, hope we never stop.

[Addendum]

I’m extremely happy Gunn issued his apology and take it at face value. Some will suspect he only responded because the issue was picked up by GLAAD and the Human RightsCampaign but I take what he said to heart as that’s what I would hope people would do if I were in his position. Being a public figure is a difficult thing but I think Gunn’s words displayed his intent without him having to “explain the joke” as it were. He said he was sorry, not that he was sorry we were offended, which is a backhanded apology used by many these days in replace of the real thing. And apologized for those who were hurt by his words. He promised to be better on all accounts in the future and I think that’s all we can ask of him. 

If you'd like, you can also read Susana's follow-up post on The Mary Sue.

TARANTINO XX: 8-FILM COLLECTION Trailer

I could not be more excited for this. Thank goodness it comes out November 20.
Included in the set: Pulp Fiction, Jackie Brown, Reservoir Dogs, Kill Bill: Volume 1, Kill Bill: Volume 2, Inglourious Basterds, True Romance, and Death Proof.

Nerdy Bird News!

It's been a while, folks. How are ya? Hopefully you've been following my work at TheMarySue.com where I post multiple times daily. If not, I give you a big sad face. But I've got some news to share! You can soon read my work at a new venue...

Tada! I told you some big news was on the way. After New York Comic Con, you can find my comic book column on IGN.com! It's a move I'm very excited about and who knows? You may even see more of me on there than just Hey, That's My Cape!

Meanwhile, you can catch me at NYCC next weekend. The Mary Sue is hosting a party on Friday, October 12, and I'll be on several panels! 

• Friday 9pm-10pm - The Psychology of Cosplay with Andrea Letamendi, Bill Doran, Holly Conrad, Jenna Busch, Robin Rosenberg. Room 1A01
• Saturday 5:15 pm - 6:15 pm - Geek Thoughts: Top Blogs Discuss Writing About Science Fiction, Fantasy and Fandom with Cyriaque Lamar, Heidi McDonald, Jamie Frevele, Rich Johnston, Ryan Britt. Room 1A01
• Saturday 6:30 pm-7:30 - Ladies of Womanthology with Anya Martin, Ashley Lentini , Bonnie Burton, Ceili Conway, Ma'at Crook, Rachel Pandich, Tanja Wooten. Room 1A01  
• Sunday 2:45 pm - 3:45 pm - GeekMoms: Raising Young Padawans with Amy Kraft, Corrina Lawson, Kristen Rutherford, Nicole Wakelin, Rebecca Angel. Room 1A01. I'll be moderating this one!!

As usual, you can always stop me to say hello on the show floor and Saturday night I'll be at the Geek Girls Network party! 

A Tragedy Hits Close To Home

Going to take a serious moment here. I had hoped to post a review today for The Dark Knight Rises but recent events are occupying my mind too much.

The events that took place in Colorado are devastating. I can't even imagine what those people in the theater and their friends and family are going through right now. Even though I was sure nothing would happen, I still had anxiety while sitting in the theater for The Dark Knight Rises last night. And it made me sick to my stomach to see Fox News and other outlets sitting outside the theater to interview fans. It reminds me why I steered clear of regular news reporting in my career.

While interning at a NY news channel many years ago, I was in my element. I loved the bustle of the news room and I felt completely at home. But there was that day I went out with a reporter who was doing a story on a 4-year-old child who was accidentally run over by her father as he was backing out of the driveway. As if that wasn't tragic enough, we sat outside their house waiting to see if anyone would come out. We knocked on their neighbor's doors to try and get comments. It was disgusting and completely unnecessary and it was the day I decided I might not be cut out for that particular brand of journalism. Or at least, I wanted no part in it.

It's important to give news, and I don't think anyone should shy away from stories because they are upsetting, but there's good journalism and bad journalism and what I've been seeing in the wake of the Aurora shooting is a lot of the latter. It’s a sad fact that there are people out there who are so disturbed they’ll kill another human being. No matter what the media will sensationalize, or what the offender themselves claims for their reasons, they are psychologically unbalanced and that is why they did what they did. Entertainment is not the cause of violence. People are. If entertainment really was the cause, all of us would be out there shooting up theaters. But we’re not, and that’s why the blame should not be directed toward movies, video games, etc. A single person made the choice to walk into a theater, heavily armed and armored, and kill his fellow human beings. He is the one responsible.

Considering the connection of this recent crime to the field I work in, I find myself having to write about something I’ve tried to avoid for a long time. My only hope is I can do so with respect and truth and encourage others to do the same.

Please do what you can to help those affected by the shootings. Donate to the local Red Cross chapter or volunteer if you’re in the area. You can also help by donating to the Colorado Organization for Victim Assistance.